My husband recently left our marriage and I’m doing okay but I miss male company. I’m totally not ready to date but a couple of men in my life, one from work and one who was a close friend years ago, suddenly started giving me a lot of attention. I like the attention. It’s been a big help getting me through these early days after being left.
If I make a profile on a dating app and say that I don’t want to meet, will I only get men who want to send me dick pics?
But these two men are not men I want to keep texting and spending time with. They’re both lovely but broken. Work guy has a girlfriend and old friend has a wife and small child. Ugh. I didn’t know work guy had a girlfriend until a couple months in. By then we were texting daily, for hours in the evenings, usually finishing up about midnight before seeing each other at work the next day. And guy with wife, because we’d been close friends previously, I thought he was just reconnecting and seeing how I was after hearing through mutual friends that my husband had left in a spectacular way. But no. both have made unambiguous declarations and that made me sad. I wish they were better men.
Since I already knew these men IRL, I didnt feel the pressure and anxiety I know I would if I had to go meet stranger. I’m just not ready, not even for coffee. But I’ve been really enjoying the texting and with work guy, I was enjoying the flirting. I was having frequent and often long text conversations with both men. I was getting compliments and good morning and good night messages. Continue reading „And with both men, I’ve loved talking about abstract stuff, like our futures and feelings about this and that“