There’s one commonality I see over and over again among people who have the hardest time dating: they have shitty attitudes. You’ll see it in the way they talk about others, about themselves, about women and the whole process of dating. Everything is pointless, nothing is going to fix them, they’ve done all this work for nothing, people suck, so forth and so on. .. why would anyone want to spend time around Captain Eeyore?
As I’m always fond of saying: dating success is 80% attitude, 20% skill and presentation. But the thing that people KirguistГЎn mujeres las mujeres mГЎs bellas del mundo miss is that it’s not about sending out “positive vibes” or other woo-woo bullshit. Your attitude has measurable, practical effects on your performance… and a shitty attitude is going to hold you back at every level.
Small wonder that they’re not having any luck in dating
But then, that’s one of the secrets about self-improvement that almost nobody will tell you: any form of improvement is never going to be instant. If you want to get good at something, you have to work at it – and that’s going to take time. This is part of the appeal of Pick-Up Artists: why spend time incrementally improving yourself as a person when you can slap a few gimmicks together and promise mastery within 30 days? You don’t want to miss out on all that pussy you could be diving through do you? They leverage the fear of missing out against the time it takes for true lasting change. The same mindset applies to “Lose Weight Now” fad diets and weight-loss supplements – why do all the “boring” things like exercise and changing your eating habits when you can just take this pill or do nothing but eat cabbages for 30 days and be all skinny and sexy in a third of the time?
“Why listen to actual experts when I’ll tell you everything you want to hear and only charge you twice as much?”
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